Divorce can be different for everyone; some couples can divorce amicably, while others may turn things into a knock down drag out fight. It's important to protect yourself as much as possible, as you may not be sure how your ex will handle the situation. You should get some things in order before filing for divorce in the event your divorce takes a turn you weren't expecting.
Gather Your Personal Records
Personal belongings such as your birth certificate, passport, personal financial records, life insurance policies and other records that are yours. You should also make copies of things that aren't yours such as your ex's financial records, pay stubs, and life insurance statements. Make copies of credit card statements you share (in the event the card is used after filing for divorce), also make copies of your tax statements.
You don't want these items lost after filing for divorce, or things being altered or going missing (such as a large sum of money missing from a retirement account). It's best to make copies and gather all of this information beforehand.
Change Passwords To Personal Accounts
Change personal passwords to things such as your e-mail and any other personal accounts you have. It's also a good time to open up your own bank account if you don't have one already and change your mail to go to a post office box for the time being.
Secure A Place To Live
If you can't afford the family home, you may need to find new living arrangements for yourself. It's time to start looking for where you will be living. This may take some time, so you may even need to ask family or friends if you can move in for a bit while you go through your divorce. If your divorce is amicable and you can live together while you go through your divorce, that's great, but most couples may have a hard time with this type of living situation.
Look For A Divorce Attorney
If you haven't done so yet, you need to find a divorce lawyer. Ask friends or family members who have divorced for references, and look for attorneys that have a good reputation and specialize in divorce and family law. Make an appointment for a consultation and ask the divorce lawyer the questions you have pertaining to divorce. Find an attorney you feel comfortable with to handle your delicate situation.
Filing for divorce can sometimes go really well, or at times can get ugly. Find a divorce attorney that suits your needs and that you feel comfortable with and protect yourself while going through your divorce.
